It can be hard to discipline a child who is having a tantrum.
When you’re in the middle of a meltdown, it’s hard to think straight and there are a million things going through your head.
You might wonder what’s wrong with the child or how you will get through this. At times like this, it can be helpful to remember that children have tantrums for a reason.
The following article will help you better understand the reasons behind tantrums and how to handle them when they arise.
What is a tantrum?
The term tantrum is actually a term that originated in English.
In 1874, the English author Edward Carpenter wrote in his book, The Tragic and Moral Education of Children, that tantrums were an acceptable way to teach young children.
He even proposed using some tantrums as learning opportunities to give your child the skills to control himself.
Here is a quote from the book that demonstrates his point: “The child needs to be told, by man’s organ, not to play so wildly, and to lay still and listen to the word; and he is never so badly behaved as when he is pre-occupied with making one violent protest after another.” Facts about tantrums It’s normal for young children to have tantrums.
Most children, however, learn to control tantrums as they grow older.
The reasons behind tantrums
There are a number of reasons that children are having tantrums.
They might need to: Get your attention (and thus, you have to pay attention to them) They need to avoid things like rejection or being left alone They are frustrated about something They are tired (especially of playing with a parent) The causes of a tantrum vary from child to child and sometimes can be very difficult to pinpoint.
When should I be concerned?
You should be concerned when your child is having tantrums for no apparent reason.
It’s important to know that all children will have tantrums from time to time, but those who are experiencing tantrums for no reason can be worrying.
Children who are having a tantrum for no reason should be brought to you gently so you can help them work through their issues.
Remember, tantrums happen when your child is unable to handle something that is going on in their life.
It’s best to give your child time to deal with their issues so that you can figure out why they’re having a meltdown.
Getting into a car without permission: A tantrum can occur when a child doesn’t want to do something, such as getting into a car, especially if they’re told not to get in.
How to stop a tantrum
To help stop a tantrum from happening, try keeping your cool.
Just like your child’s, you also might have a meltdown every now and then. So, you need to make sure you remain as calm as possible.
Trying to get upset will only make things worse. Also, children tend to lose control when they are hungry. The more food they consume, the worse their tantrums will be.
So, try to feed them a healthy snack every few hours. If the problem seems to be mental, try calming your child down.
Before giving them a big piece of ice cream, let them feel their own emotions. Try distracting your child with something that they’re interested in.
Maybe your child would like to play with some blocks. Let them build something or color with the crayons.
Having kids means having more responsibility and to help your kids, you need to learn to show your own responsibility.
If you follow these techniques, you will be able to spend more quality time with your children and make sure they learn the skills they need to be good, healthy adults.