A woman made her husband publicly apologize to her after he accused her of theft / Bright Side
One of the most hurtful things someone can do to you is to accuse you of something you didn’t do, and what’s more, to not believe you when you tell them that you are 100% innocent. We’ve all felt this way at some point in our lives, but that hurt feeling is greatest when the person accusing you is your partner. Having the one person you choose to trust in your life but not trusting you can be unbearable for many people.
Bright Side reader I recently had the same problem with her husband and turned to us for some helpful advice.
We’re on the bright side who had some similar experiences with false accusations, and we’d like to give you some advice.
Thank you very much for reaching out to us to ask for our opinion and advice on this matter. Having someone not only falsely accuse you of something but also mistrust you can be very frustrating. And in this case, your husband strongly hinted that you may have stolen this ring. He may not have accused you outright, but the moment he asked if you did, he made it clear that he thought you were capable of the action.
- You need to talk about trust. You and your husband have been together for 1.5 years, and his accusing you of theft may mean that he does not trust you. When we trust someone, we can’t even fathom the idea that they can do such a thing. So you have to sit down with him and ask him if he has trust issues. You may have already noticed this problem in other aspects of your relationship.
- You had the right to forgive him if you loved him. People make mistakes every day, and when they offer a genuine apology, you can choose to forgive them. You let go of all the anger and frustration that should have been inside you. This means that you have helped your body and your overall health to take this huge burden off.
- You need to dig deeper and see if you have truly forgiven him. You know you have nothing left when you seek revenge or vengeance. And asking you to apologize in front of all his family is a kind of revenge. So, now that he’s done that too, are you still hurt by the whole situation, or are you really over it?
- You have to explain to him that he cannot share everything with your friends. This is a personal matter that should be taken care of in private and not analyzed even with the closest of friends. Your humiliation and frustration must have increased after he announced his accusations. If this is the first time he’s done something like this, you’re right to forgive him.
- If talking about your personal matters with others is something he does regularly, then things are much more serious. Of course, we all share personal things with our friends, but some issues should remain between the people involved. This is because our friends can often influence us to say and do things we wouldn’t normally decide for ourselves. If this is the case with your spouse, you should have a deep and long conversation about exaggerating.
What will you tell Amelia about her problem? Have you ever had a similar problem, and if so, how did you deal with it? Was it resolved by talk or did things go worse than expected?